A student and a counselor can learn a lesson over coffee

From the desk of Celia Tucker, Academic College Counselor:
When a senior walked into the Senior Gathering Area in the Academic Office recently she wanted a cup of coffee. Looking at the empty pot she said, “Can you show me how to make coffee in this pot?” I paused. She didn’t say, “The coffee pot is empty—can you make more?” she said, “Can you show me how to make it?”
I was a tad stunned and then in my stunned stupor I thought–isn’t that what teaching responsibility, independence and survival skills is all about? I thought, well, there you have it–an early morning, a sleepy student, an empty coffee pot, and Boom—education in a nutshell.
Now, I have to admit that when students come in and the coffee pot is empty it is routine for one of us to immediately go and make more. Why not? We have done it before. We know the process, and we have some experience. It takes time to show someone where the supplies are; to explain the steps; to make them aware of the procedures for making a delicious cup of coffee—it is just easier.
Yes, easier, but is it best? I have to wonder: Are we taking away an opportunity for growth; are we taking away their sense of satisfaction; are we taking away an experience of trial and error—to do something wrong and then have to learn how to do it right; are we taking away that moment they go from being dependent to being independent?
Here’s to making mistakes, independence, and fresh coffee.

